Reasons the “Feminists Fuck Better” Catch-Phrase Makes Me Queasy

1. It’s making a false equivalence. A lot of people explain “feminists fuck better” by saying that feminists practice good consent. Which, sure, is a prerequisite for being good in bed. But not every self-proclaimed feminist is as interested in consent as they should be, and not everyone who *is* committed to an equitable model of consent identifies as a feminist.

2. It’s irrelevant. WE DIDN’T BECOME FEMINISTS SO THAT YOUR EXPERIENCE OF FUCKING US WOULD BE MORE ENJOYABLE. Holy fucking shit.

3. It erases asexual feminists. And celibate feminists. And other feminists who have no interest in fucking or being evaluated on their sexual performance.

4. It’s…gross. Sex isn’t gross, but shaming non-feminists by declaring that they, by necessity, fuck “worse” is. And so is making bullshit justifications for your political beliefs.

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6 responses to “Reasons the “Feminists Fuck Better” Catch-Phrase Makes Me Queasy

  1. Dominique Millette

    This is perfect. Thank you thank you thank your for this post. I couldn’t add a thing.

  2. …and not everyone who *is* committed to an equitable model of consent identifies as a feminist.
    That right there is where you hit the homerun.

    Sex isn’t gross, but shaming non-feminists by declaring that they, by necessity, fuck “worse” is. And so is making bullshit justifications for your political beliefs.
    And then this is where you won.

    So my question is, How exactly did you manage to turn win into something that you can type out on a computer screen?

  3. ohtarzie

    Holy shit. This is one helluva parsing. It’s perfect.

    I wish I could be this incisive just once.

  4. As an asexual feminist, thanks so much for number 3. Just ’cause we’re sex positive doesn’t mean we’re personally interested in practicing it.

    The rest of the numbers are perfect too 🙂

  5. what about “Feminism makes sex better. For everyone.” ?

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